By now most of us know what love languages are, but for those who don’t: Gary Chapman introduced five “languages” of love — the way we interpret and understand it: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service. I’ve written about love languages before, and most…

And why we usually make mistakes in knowing — You’ve probably Googled it and if you haven’t Googled it, you’ve certainly still wondered it. Because we all have. “Are they into me or not?” But when we do, we run into a slew of problems, because: Most information out there is really, really stupid. Signs like: which direction their…

In short: because I like it — The fact that many writers have day jobs is not new — most aspiring writers do (and many of the successful ones did, too, before they made it big.) So to say I have a job isn’t all that interesting. Where people get hung up is when I clarify: I’m…

If you ask people what “the key to making a relationship last” is, some of the most common answers you’ll get are: “communication” “trust” “respect” But the thing is… Those are not the secret Many people struggle with emotional boundaries — what’s theirs, what’s their partner’s — and think “sharing” is the same as “solving,”…

So, what will you do? — What’s emotional infidelity? Loosely: “Intimacy with someone besides our partner that’s emotional, not physical.” It happens to many people, and in a world of hyper-communication and connectivity, it’s becoming an increasingly big topic. So, what do we do? Let’s take this in two parts… Part I: Attraction Part II: What To Do With It — PART I: ATTRACTION — What it is, its power…

Because most of “the signs” they tell you are garbage — If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re gonna have a bad time Because it’s mostly shit advice. Here’s a small sampling: “They’re always on your mind” This is infatuation. If someone’s “always” on your mind, you’re not focused on other Really Important Things. And that’s a problem. Real love fits into real life, rather than usurping it. It’s calm, not overwhelming.

We’re bad at being able to tell — “Love” is hard. Not complex —but hard. Especially when it comes to knowing if you really have it. I talk a lot about signs it is love, but here’s a list of common signs — especially feelings — we attribute to “love” that actually aren’t. TL;DR — it’s most of…

“I could go either way” — People are increasingly unsure about kids, and the US and European fertility rate is at an all-time low. According to Pew Research Center study, 1 in 5 people will remain childless. That’s doubled since the 1970s. You’re not alone — and uncertainty is higher among women than men Women are not just delaying babies; they’re debating them altogether. Leigh Weingus wrote, “Having…

#1: Reading isn’t a secret to success — I’ve read over 300 books since the beginning of 2011, not counting the many I started but didn’t finish and the endless content we all read online. I’ve read about topics ranging from Buddhism to business, philosophy to physics, and writers ranging from feminists to pick-up artists (and even Trump’s…