Every single one of these reasons is incredibly self-serving.

What about what she wants or would benefit from?

That being said, I don’t think you’re pretending to actually care about this girl, and you’re certainly not asking her to disrupt her life for her. By her reaction, it may or may not be uncomfortable, but you didn’t sound to be pressuring or pushing.

So sure, if the key here was to gain more confident and comfort in owning our truth, this was a good growing point for you.

We just have to watch what impact we have on others — and what their wants and needs are — when we do so.