- Well, just because we do doesn’t mean we “should.” We also eat way too many calories a day, but this isn’t dragged into the food pyramid.
- Oh honey, you sweet summer child… porn is a caricature of sex; a cartoon animation of sex. It takes all of the “consumption” elements of sex and then amplifies them until they extinguish the real parts. Contrary to what you’re suggesting, not only is it not “helpful,” but it easily becomes very destructive to our idea of sex and our view of sexual partners (source: see the Dutch article you linked.) Porn does very little to teach us about real sex or pleasure — especially women’s.
To be entirely frank, in case it’s still not clear: you can always tell when someone got their technique for “getting their partner off” from porn. As a straight woman, these are not the “best” lovers; they are the worst. And I say this as a woman who watches porn, which is why I know it’s where these techniques come from. And not only does porn influence a partner’s poor technique, but it’s also reflected in his views toward sex — and his sexual partners (which is likely chicken and egg; the mindset and the porn.)
The best partners don’t have sex in the way that’s reflected in porn. So not surprisingly, they also tend not to get much (especially by way of “education”) out of watching it. “Good sex” for many people is about a slew of shit that isn’t represented in porn (which is pretty much cartoons.)
