Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

In response, I will counter:

1. Suggesting how other people should talk on basis of age is as negative as suggesting how other people should act on basis of anything, inc. gender or race. Other people are not our domain. I appreciate you reading — and replying! We are all entitled to our opinion — and existence.
2. Some of what you suggest is “chemistry, both physical and non physical. Intuition… subtlety and hints…” I might argue that these are not entirely un-different from “sending and receiving messages” and connection.
3. Some of the other things you listed — “creativity & experimentation, foreplay skills, technical skills — understanding the acts and positions and techniques and styles to use, knowing how to do it in different places like the woods or the beach or a backseat. Talking dirty without eliciting laughter. Role playing. Toy and lube usage. Writing naughty letters and fantasy stories” — can be part of good sex, but these are the tactical elements which, I argue, are built after first having a foundation of communication and connection.