Spanning the 20th and 21st Centuries, classic to contemporary

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Physical Touch

This is one of the simplest love languages and, tbh, one of my favorite to give — because it’s…

And why we usually make mistakes in knowing

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“Are they into me or not?”

But when we do, we run into a slew of problems, because:

Most information out there is really, really stupid.

Signs like: which direction their feet are pointing, whether or not they make eye contact or ask questions or giggle and twirl their hair or whatever.

1. False Positives

Also known as “type I” errors in statistical hypothesis, this is an error in which a result improperly indicates…

In short: because I like it

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I’m not trying to leave it.

Because “escaping a job” isn’t every writer’s primary motivation.

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Those are not the secret

Many people struggle with emotional boundaries — what’s theirs, what’s their partner’s — and think “sharing” is the same as “solving,” as though “talking about it” means it’ll be “fixed.” They then struggle with anxiety and passive-aggressiveness — especially when, shocker, “communication” alone doesn’t work. So, I know many say that “communication” is the solution, but it’s not.

So, what will you do?

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What’s emotional infidelity?


Let’s take this in two parts…

  • Part I: Attraction
  • Part II: What To Do With It


What it is, its power, and limitations.

Attraction sneaks up on us

Love is a choice, but attraction may not be.

Attraction feels really good

Like most people, I have enjoyed the sweet, sodden…

Because most of “the signs” they tell you are garbage

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If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re gonna have a bad time

Because it’s mostly shit advice.

“They’re always on your mind”

This is infatuation.

“You crave them” or “can’t get enough of them”

See above.

“They’re your ‘everything’”


“You see them in your future”

We’re bad at being able to tell

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You’re Flying High

Love is not about highs and “peaks.”

“I could go either way”

You’re not alone — and uncertainty is higher among women than men

Women are not just delaying babies; they’re debating them altogether.

#1: Reading isn’t a secret to success

Kris Gage

Writer — reach me at krisgagemedium (at) gmail (dot) com

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